Struggling to connect to your loved ones?

Every relationship is a story. As each of us brings specific character traits, perspectives, and life experiences into the mix, a unique dynamic is created with the people that share our lives with us.

But sometimes, the story being told is a painful one. Conflict is a completely normal aspect of human relationships and bound to arise as we balance our connections with a drive towards our own independence and authenticity. Supporting our loved ones—and ourselves—through the process of individuating is often tricky.

Relationship Counseling

Disconnection manifests as discord, withdrawal, and isolation

If you’re in a relationship that’s struggling, you’re probably sad, anxious, and overwhelmed at the prospect of growing apart from your loved one(s). You may be at an impasse in your intimate relationship, whether there has been trauma, infidelity, or a breakdown in communication. Or perhaps your family has hit bumps in the road as you navigate loss, divorce, identity-related issues, addiction, or blending with another family.

Regardless of your experience, it’s painful to live like strangers. And creating a sense of togetherness is near impossible when feelings of loneliness, detachment, and resentment begin to define our lives at home. Fortunately, therapy offers a chance to come together with our loved ones in a safe, neutral environment where we can collaborate on solutions that promote connection and harmony.

Working together in counseling, you, your partner, and/or your family members will learn to leverage your strengths, acknowledge one another, and heal the relationship. As you develop new and compatible strategies for expressing your needs, you can determine where your story together is headed.

Unhealed individual wounds translate to unhealthy patterns in our relationships

Because grief and loss are universal to the human experience, grief and loss are integral to the dynamics we create with others. And what are we grieving? Anything that doesn’t go according to plan. This can include unresolved trauma, attachment wounds, and the loss of something or someone.

When we “swallow” our grief without fully processing the pain, our body keeps the score. Holding onto our trauma, we experience mental health symptoms and interpersonal conflict as we take our feelings out on others instead of looking from within to heal. Our pain is demanding to be felt—and it’s important to listen.

An essential tenet of the therapeutic process is that you can’t heal what you aren’t willing to feel. Processing your pain with your loved ones is the key to easing the emotional burden and facilitating a stronger sense of connection in your life.

As systems- and attachment-focused therapists, the team at Hohm Psychotherapy specializes in relationships of all kinds. We work with our clients to create shared goals and enhance emotional awareness, opening up space in their relationships for lasting growth and change. Joining your partner or family in therapy, you can heal your relationship dynamics as you learn to heal yourself.

Our approach

First and foremost, counseling is a safe space. Instead of engaging in patterns of conflict or avoidance when navigating emotionally intense topics, you will be given tools for increasing awareness, promoting distress tolerance and regulation, and de-escalating conflict. This will lay a safe and secure foundation for each person in the unit to feel understood and supported.

We offer couples, families, and individuals a chance to heal their relationships through therapy.

The primary aim of relationship counseling is to heal core wounds and facilitate corrective emotional experiences that both honor past pain and create new possibilities for closeness and connection. Our holistic, integrative approach to couples and family therapy supports relationships at every level.

Attachment-based Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) is the most efficient tool we use when counseling relationships. Through EFT, you can better understand the emotional models you were raised with and how they reflect and refract within your closest interpersonal connections, ultimately adjusting the patterns that no longer serve your relational systems. (For couples, in particular, The Gottman Method for marriage counseling may be used to reinforce the emotional and communication skills facilitated through EFT.)

We will also provide you with psychoeducation about trauma and its significant impact on relationship dynamics. As you learn more about how the body perceives danger and holds onto distress, you can replace unhealthy protective mechanisms with healing, collaborative ones. Somatic Experiencing ™ can be particularly useful in this process as it helps regulate the body’s trauma response, promoting a sense of calm and control.

With a commitment to Hohm—Healing Our Hearts and Minds—we know it’s excruciating to experience conflict with your loved one(s) and that the wounds of intergenerational and relational trauma run deep. This process takes time and intention, but it’s important to learn how to respond to that part of yourself that’s in pain and signaling unhealthy patterns. A commitment to counseling shows that you want to grow individually—and together within your relationships—to ensure a brighter future for generations to come.

Unsure if counseling is right for you?

It’s completely normal to be resistant to therapy. There are parts of ourselves that exist to protect us from becoming vulnerable. Our therapists value that vulnerability and will work to validate your feelings, moving at a safe and manageable pace.
We believe that once you and your loved one are able to experience the healing space of counseling, you can build a trusted relationship with your clinician and each other as you witness change taking place. And it’s likely that change will begin to happen quicker than you think.
Relationship counseling applies to couples, individuals, the whole family, or any combination therein. Depending on your primary goals for therapy, your Hohm therapist will determine which relationships to focus on and who to include in each session. Regardless of who we work with at any given time, we don’t “take sides”; rather, our ultimate goal is to heal the relational system as a whole.
Hohm Psychotherapy is an out-of-network practice, which means that the full rate is charged after each session. If you want to request reimbursement from your insurance network, we can provide you with a superbill. However, you may want to contact your insurance company before starting treatment to confirm out-of-network benefits.

The past no longer works for the present. It’s time to shed layers so your relationships can thrive.

Relationship counseling through Hohm Psychotherapy is available to families, couples, and individuals who could benefit from improving communication and healing interpersonal dynamics. For more information about how we can help, contact us.

All therapy sessions are conducted online at this time.